For the past two months I have been working for a certain educational publisher that has attracted a lot of negative media—including a spot on an episode of Last Week Tonight with John Oliver.
I’ll admit, my two motivations going into the job were 1) money and 2) get an insider’s perspective into the controversial company that has a major hand in the education system in our country.
Some of my suspicions were confirmed. But there were also some pleasant surprises. The company’s anti-bigotry mentality was refreshing. They actively seek to welcome employees of diverse backgrounds, including LGBTQ individuals, people living with disabilities, and people of all races and beliefs. While we faced a good deal of technical and administrative issues, my team’s director and supervisor were supportive and helpful. There were certain things that made the project seem like something out of a Twilight Zone episode, but the general morale and comradery of my team made everything worth it.
The most surprising insight I gained from this project, however, was from the work itself. We were grading essays written by 6th graders. These 90,000 some odd essays were written by students from different cultural and socioeconomic backgrounds, so it’s safe to say we saw a good overview of what all 6th graders think about—regardless of who they are and where they are from.
Interestingly enough, about 75% of the students wrote about the same 5 topics. For the sake of that pesky non-disclosure agreement we all signed, I won’t tell you what those topics were. But I can assure you: if I didn’t believe in the hive mind before, I do now. It seems that children, regardless of social status or color or identity or quality of education think the same way about the same things.
We often as a team would share universal groans of boredom as the same concepts and topics returned over and over and over. While certain stories were memorable, the other thousands blended together, until we could more or less recite the formulaic narratives by heart.
After a few weeks of this, an interesting idea struck me.
Grades 6th-8th are important years for children as they begin to explore their identities and learn about the world. But it is also the period of time in which they learn the basics of writing—and how to express themselves on paper.
The chilling realization is that the essays we read represent not only the students’ developing writing skill, but also the way they perceive themselves.
Adolescence is full of firsts—the first time on a bike, the first time doing a handstand, the first time kicking a ball, the first time truly reflecting on who you are as a person, in the greater scheme of things.
And as basic psychology will tell you, these firsts form the framework that we build on for the rest of our lives.
Which means the way these kids learn to write about themselves will likely not change too much as they grow. Sure, they will (hopefully) learn that “teachering”, “struggulying”, “scooleosist”, and “actsent” are not words, and that Lebron James’ name is not, in fact “Little Brown James”. But assuming that they will never spend 9 weeks reading papers that begin the exact same way and talk about the exact same things, these kids will grow into adults unaware of their overwhelming un-uniqueness…and continue to write and think about themselves the way they have always done.
This may seem fairly harmless. After all, we are entitled to keeping our own interests and personalities, however generic and socially acceptable they may seem.
But when it comes time to impress someone—say, a potential employer, sounding the same as everyone else becomes a HUGE issue.
Imagine for a moment that instead of reading 90,000 essays written by children, I was reading 90 resumes, or cover letters, or Linkedin Profiles, written by job applicants.
Who would I remember? The 85 applicants who are “detail-oriented team players”? Or the 5 individuals who tell me about the accomplishments and experiences that they ALONE had as professionals.
- The woman who gained a permanent position after going above and beyond to completely restructure her boss’s filing system, thus saving him hours and hours of time struggling to find that vitally important missing document about the merger that will change his career.
- The lawyer who championed the effort to force a local doctor who was misrepresenting himself to come clean and treat his patients with honesty and integrity.
- The store clerk who stopped thieves from stealing products simply by grinning knowingly at them and asking “can I help you find something?”
- The fry cook who actively took on extra shifts when employees quit their jobs without notice, quietly baring the burden and never gaining recognition for his willingness to help—until he proudly includes it in his resume, thus proving to his new potential boss that he has what it takes to become a manager.
- The single mom who quit a blossoming career to raise her kids and care for her ailing parents, all while working part time jobs and taking classes at the community college.
These are the stories that are memorable. However great or small the achievement, it is YOUR moment; something that you alone took the initiative and time to do.
This is what employers will remember. This is the kind of person recruiters look for.
So think about what you’ve done. Not what you were expected to do. Not what everyone else does in your position. Think about what you alone have experienced, and what you alone have achieved. Whether you’re a fry cook or a successful lawyer, you are unique.
It’s up to you to embrace your individuality, and show it off to the world.